Adrian is a nutritional coach with a love and passion for food. He is a father of two beautiful girls and knows first hand the trials and tribulations of parenthood and lack of time and energy to eat healthy so he wants to use his knowledge and skills to help others! ??
There is no doubt that parenting is the hardest and most challenging job you will ever have to face. There is no universal handbook or how-to-guide that works with every child. Every child poses their own unique set of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual challenges that we can only discover through making mistakes. And that’s one of the things that as parents we need to accept.
Having recently started working from home, I can honestly say that I have a new found respect and admiration for all that my wife does, in fact, for all that every mother does. When once upon a time I could have just left for work and let my wife deal with the crying baby, or the lounge room floor scattered with toys, or the baby that refuses to eat, now it is something that I also need to deal with. I think every man needs to experience firsthand what a mother experiences day in and day out, that there is no switch off button, no panic room in which to escape. Going to work everyday is the easy option; in fact, going to work IS the escape room. Some days parenting can feel like you are blowing up a balloon just waiting for it to burst! In saying all this, the rewards are definitely plentiful. To watch your child grow right before your eyes, and to be a part of all that, is a feeling like no other. To hear your child say the words ‘I love you’ while giving you the biggest hug makes you forget about the tantrums, sleepless nights, and loss of sanity, at least temporarily.
As a nutrition coach, one of the biggest challenges with raising our 5-year old daughter is getting her to eat what we want her to eat. This seems to be a universal problem that many parents struggle with. I look at a lot of my clients who have battled with their weight and unhealthy eating patterns for a good chunk of their lives, and it’s clear to me now where and how this all started. Ensuring that our kids develop healthy eating habits is crucial, and essentially, it will determine what kind of relationship they will have with food once they become adults. As parents, we can easily fall into the trap of feeding our kids whatever is easy. Just as it’s easier to plonk our kids in front of the TV in order to just get half an hour to ourselves. We have a responsibility, and a duty of care, to ensure that our kids aren’t being exposed to all the toxic chemicals found in processed foods that can often lead to learning difficulties and behavioural problems. Unfortunately, or fortunately, our first-borns tend to be the guinea pigs, the benchmarks by which we learn how to improve and refine our parenting habits.
With our first child Valentina, we were quite relaxed with giving her ‘treats’, and it ended up getting to a point where she transformed into a demon child if we said no to chocolate or ice cream! What did we create?! It then became apparent to us that processed foods pose a bigger problem than expected, and so we had to change our approach with our second child. We’re definitely now more conscious of how we feed our kids, as essentially we’re in control of their growth, development and behaviour.
My grandmother raised me from the age of six when my mother died from leukemia back in 1982. As we all know, grandparents will give their grandchildren whatever they want, and I grew up without a set of strict rules or boundaries. Remember going to your grandparents house and raiding their pantry for junk food? I had that 24/7, and my grandmother’s pantry was always stocked as if ready for a zombie apocalypse! I never had anyone to tell me not to eat a whole packet of Monte Carlo biscuits because it was unhealthy for me, in fact, my grandmother used to encourage me to eat more! The curse of having an Italian background! Unfortunately, my lack of healthy eating habits would be something that would haunt me for most of my adult life. Even though I frequented the gym religiously from the age of fifteen, and learned how to eat healthier, invariably this was followed by bouts of binge eating. It was like I was taking one step forward and two steps back and it never really allowed me to attain the kind of body that I always wanted.
It wasn’t until I started my nutrition coaching business that I really developed this burning desire to help other people overcome their destructive eating habits. And it wasn’t until I learned how to assert control over food rather than allowing food to control me that both my body and health really started to change. I can see how most people struggle with dieting their entire lives, as once established, bad habits can be tricky to shift. It also doesn’t help when everywhere you look, companies are taking every opportunity possible to use food as bait.
As we get older, we start to notice our bodies changing. For many women, childbirth signals changes in body shape and subsequent health issues, which I can only imagine would feel quite confronting. It can be hard to juggle the challenges of parenthood yet still find the time and energy to eat well and look after ourselves. This often leads to settling for the easiest options, and unfortunately, the easiest options are also often the worst options! How do we turn this around? It’s important to understand that we need to see our health as a priority. Yes, our kids are our main priority, but what use are we to them if we are sick, stressed, overweight or tired? It also sets an example to our kids, as after all, we are the best role models for them. If we don’t take charge of our own bodies and our own health, what message is that sending to our kids?
To find out how Adrian can help you with your weight and health goals, please visit www.onelifeonebody.net